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The Difference Between You and Me
So today I had my first UNVS199 class, and it kind of made me think about some different things. For those of you who don't know what it is, it is an orientation leadership class designed to prepare students to lead orientation over the summer. During class, my group was assigned a topic of the development of a responsible and ethical person. And that lead me to think about how we each get to be at the point that we are at now; morals and values that we learn and develop over time.Now don't get me wrong here, I'm not going to force my morals onto you, but instead I am going to give some insight on what I believe. Everyone in this world should be able to stand strong to their morals and values, but at the same time should be open and accepting of different viewpoints and ideas. I'm not saying you have to be absolute in your beliefs; they can change if something so influences you to change. The same goes for the different viewpoints; you do not have to accept them and incorporate them into your own beliefs, but instead just be willing to listen to them and give it a shot, shall you deem them worthy. Pretty much what I'm getting at is that we, as human beings, should be open-minded in our approach to ethics and values. Different people equals different opinions, so sure, some debate is warranted.
Regardless, this is my opinion, be open minded about it will you?
Labels: Difference, Moral, Open Minded, Opinion, Value
On Tuesday, January 27, 2009 at 8:55 PM
Love is a Wonderful Thing, Isn't It?
Love. 1 word, seemingly endless meanings. This one word is more complex than astrophysics, advanced calculus, and knowing how to ride a unicycle while juggling chainsaws and drinking coffee at the same time (yes, this was completely random). It's a phenomenon that we really cannot explain in words, and can best be described by the little things we do. Some people are fortunate enough to find love relatively quickly, and some people spend their whole lives looking for it. Personally, I haven't found Ms. Right yet, but I'm looking, so at least the effort is there. But the fact remains, nobody can truly define what love is.Marriage. Yes, it was inevitable that I would bring up marriage after talking about love. Some would call it eternal bliss, some would call it hell. I say it's an opportunity and a decision to spend your life with someone you truly care about, through all the shit that life can throw at you. Though it may be stressful at times, things usually tend to work out, whether it's for the best or the worst. But hey, you signed up for it, what do you expect? Regardless, marriage is something that two people enter together with the hopes that all is for the best.
Try to cherish every moment together so that your relationship can continue to deepen, and learn from your mistakes so that you can avoid the heartache that is divorce. Live long, love each other, and prosper. Congrats on your marriage cousin, hope you two have the best damn times of your lives.
Labels: actions, bad, good, Love, marriage, ms. right, sensative
On Sunday, January 25, 2009 at 12:14 AM
Faith, Hope, and All That Karma Business
Dedication: This post is for someone who's dealing with some tough times right now. My message to them: Remember, the dawn is always the brightest after our darkest hour.When you say no, I say yes. When life says that it can't be done, I say fuck you and then try my best to do it anyways. So what if I don't succeed, I believed I did. I kept faith, and never lost hope that it could be done. Sometimes my dedication pays off, sometimes I just make myself look like a fool, but in the end all that matters is that I tried. Typical, cliché type anecdote that you would spoon-feed to children, right?
Answer: Yeah it is. But, it also is the truth. Life rewards us for our effort, and although it might not become apparent immediately, it will be there. Patience, young grasshopper, for you will eventually get what you deserve. Might not be today or tomorrow, but it will come. Trust me when I say this, karma is real, in most cases anyways (for an exemption see my Nice Guy post, I have yet to see results). So hang in there.
Now, you might be sitting there reading this thinking, "WOW! This BK guy is so full of shit, I've been waiting and I haven't gotten anything good!" Again, let me reiterate that all good things come in time, and that a rush job will never be as good as something that has been crafted and perfected over time. So for now just sit there, deal with it, and never lose hope because your patience will be rewarded.
Labels: effort, faith, hope, karma, patience, perserverance, time
On Tuesday, January 20, 2009 at 6:13 PM
Being The Nice Guy
Sometimes, life throws you a curveball and you don't know how to cope with it. In the case of guys, we kinda sit there and look at the problem, decide fuck it, it's not worth my time, and move on with our lives. In the case of girls though, it is not uncommon for a girl to become enveloped in the situation and decide to become almost overly preoccupied with the issue at hand. Enter the nice guy.Quite simply, being a nice guys is not as gratifying as one can imagine, and it is nowhere like what Hollywood portrays to it. Usually, we nice guys generally stop whatever we're doing to go and help out our friend, sometimes more than friends, and solve whatever troubles them to tears. It might require beating the shit out of someone, or it might just mean sitting there and letting them cry on our shoulder. Whatever gets the job done, we'll do it.
There comes a point in time, though, that we have to draw the line. Yet, as a nice guy it's almost too hard to draw the line, let alone pick up the stick to draw it in the sand. As content as we seem, we are actually not happy at all on the inside; in fact, we're almost torn between I don't wanna fuck up what we have right now and well... I kind of like you. It's an internal struggle that almost never goes away, and doesn't have any easy remedy... except for that right one that can see through the shroud of niceness and take us for what we really are: genuine, caring nice guys.
Ladies, get the hint. Forget the jerks, go with the nice guy. It's better for you in the long run.
Labels: caring, Girl, nice guy, sensative, troubled
On Wednesday, January 14, 2009 at 11:43 PM
Gratefulness
So coming back from the beach yesterday with a screwed up leg was definitely not fun, although I did enjoy myself at the beach because of good company. And then tonight I just finished preparations for the David C. vs BK beef cook off. And that's when I kinda realized that I'm lucky to be able to do these kinds of things, especially in today's oh so fucked up economy.Sometimes when I say thanks to people, they shrug it off or kinda ignore it because it seems sarcastic. In reality, when I say thanks I genuinely mean it, at least 99.8% of the time. So if I sound like I'm being a sarcastic asshole, I really don't mean to come off that way, so apologies there. As for my general lesson in this post, I kinda don't have anything specific in mind. Actually, I take that back; since I'm talking about being grateful, what say I make that the lesson of the day... er couple days. Being grateful is never out of style, and the value of a simple "thank you" is severely underrated. Those two words can make or break a day for some people, so make sure to use your manners when somebody gives you something or does something for you.
Oh yeah, and this is not supposed to be one of those use all of your manners type things that you tell to little kids. Just a little rule of thumb, nothing more.
Labels: grateful, manners, polite, thank you
On Tuesday, January 13, 2009 at 6:35 PM
Planning Ahead, or the Lack Thereof
Disclaimer: Inspired by an early morning conversation on December 30th, 2009So basically every day is seeming to become more and more monotonous and like a series of planned events. Wake up, drop sister off at school, and then either go home and sit on the computer or go to work, with the occasional venture out to visit friends. Quite frankly, I'm getting bored with it, and need to shake things up.
Living by a set plan is wonderful at times because there is some comfort to be found in knowing what is supposed to come next. At the same time, though, the monotony seems to become almost overwhelming and frankly takes the fun out of living. Sometimes, I wish I could just stop whatever it is that I'm doing and just let things naturally transpire as the world wishes.
But what about the plan? Aren't you afraid that everything would go off track? Yeah, I'm a bit worried. But I have a personal belief in fate and destiny, and though at times I will claim that "one is indeed in command of their own destiny," I believe that there are some things in life you just can't control no matter how much you want to. It's going to happen whether you like it or not, so just accept it and move on. I guess the gist of what I'm trying to say in this post is that sometimes it's best to just go with the flow and see what happens.
Labels: daily grind, general, Life, routine
On Friday, January 9, 2009 at 9:17 AM
Reflection on Life #2
Disclaimer: This was written on April 9th, 2008 by Yours Truely.As we grow older, we are exposed to the outside world.
Whether it be the joys of life,
Like graduating high school,
Having that special moment with someone,
Or even taking in a relaxing moment.
Whether it be one of the pitfalls of life,
Like failing a test,
Losing a book or a video game,
Or even the passing of someone dear to us,
Life isn't going to stop for us.
Though we may feel as if we're suspended in time,
Seperated in our own reality for what may feel like an eternity,
The world WILL continue to turn,
Regardless of how we feel.
Though I have by no means lived a long life,
It is with this knowledge and wisdom that I have obtained,
That I am able to create my basic philosophy that I live and die by.
Rejoice in moments of victory, reflect in moments of loss,
And wake up to each sunrise as if it was your last.
Because life is fragile,
And you never know which sunrise will be your final one.
Labels: daily, Life, philosophy, reality, Reflection, ups and downs
at 1:30 AM
Reflection on Love Pt. 2
Disclaimer: This was written on June 25th, 2007 by Yours Truely.To be honest, liking someone is the least productive thing in the world.
It doesn't feed you,
And it doesn't bring you any more money.
Going sleepless nights because you're thinking of them makes you less productive.
Having to deal with the pain of a broken heart,
And the jealousy of another person being with the one you like,
Both cause such suffering.
So why is it that we like other people?
Maybe it's because we realize that giving to them brings more happiness than receiving,
And maybe it's because it brings a little smile to our face.
Maybe because it allows us to feel like a kid again without having to use a time machine.
But most importantly,
It helps us feel like a complete person.
Labels: Girl, Love, Reflection, The One
at 1:28 AM
Reflection on Love
Disclaimer: This post was written on June 20th, 2007 by Yours Truely.It's really funny how life works sometimes.
You think that things are miserably wrong,
And that nothing seems to be going right.
But it's that one person that brings it all together,
And helps things fall into place like the pieces to a puzzle.
Life is what we make of it,
And the people we love are there to help guide us.
I would only be so lucky,
As to find the right person to guide me.
Maybe she's out there somewhere looking at the same star as me,
Or maybe doing something as simple as watching the same TV channel.
Maybe I already know her,
Or maybe she's out there waiting to be found.
All I know is that if fate says it is to be,
I will meet her one day.
Labels: Girl, Love, Reflection, The One
at 1:27 AM
Reflection on Life
Disclaimer: This post was written on June 19th, 2007 by yours truely.Life is so much like a stream.
It slowly trickles, and moves ahead.
There are the white water rapids, or the hard times,
And there are the lulls and slow pace of everyday chores,
But it moves none the less.
Sometimes, as quickly as it began as the dew from the melting snow,
It can end so abruptly, like a waterfall.
As hard as it is to see life end so quickly,
It is something we must all deal with,
And something we all will face at one point in time or another.
We put up dams to try and slow the pace,
And even take the occasional swim to enjoy ourselves.
But no matter what may happen,
Life will continue to flow.
So drink in the moment,
For you will never know when the stream will run dry.
Labels: Life, Reflection
at 1:24 AM
Trust
Disclaimer: This is a note I had previously written, just transposed onto this blog. It begins as a rant and turns into something hopefully more universal.Merriam-Webster defines trust as the following.
Trust.
1) a charge or duty imposed in faith or confidence or as a condition of some relationship.
2) something committed or entrusted to one to be used or cared for in the interest of another.
Lately as I've been looking back more on life, I've been forced to come to the conclusion that despite my efforts to surround myself with people who I believe to be trustworthy, I have a rat or two in the crowd. This, although my fault and my fault alone, is something that needs to be corrected.When I tell you something personal, I tell you out of the confidence that it is something that only you and I will know, and that is because I have deemed you worthy of my trust. Violating that trust is something that is unforgivable, and changes the dynamic of our relationship. And I'm going to be honest, it's not a change that you or I will like. Breaking the trust of a friend is the same thing as betrayal, and you should consider yourself to be the lowest of the low amongst those who have wronged others.
Don't believe me? For those of you who have read Dante's Inferno, which I'm sure most of you have read due to either High School or College English, you should know what the 9th and lowest level of hell is. In case you don't, though, please allow me to refresh your memory. The lowest level of hell is where Cerebus, the guardian dog of Hell, rests chewing upon 3 people. Cassius, Brutus, and Judas all lay within the grasps of the devil dog's mouths, and they lay there because each of those three has betrayed someone who trusted them. Cassius and Brutus both stabbed Julius Caesar in the back, figuratively and literally, while Judas surrendered Jesus to the Romans after Jesus had entrusted Judas and made him one of his disciples. Despicable characters at the very least.
So please be aware of what you do. Because I am not as stupid as you think I am, and I will find out. And this is a warning that goes out to everyone: Be careful who you put your trust in, you never know who is going to turn their back on you when you need them most.
Labels: betrayal, friends, Trust
at 1:08 AM
So A Little About Myself
Before I begin with my seemingly at random posts and rants about life, love, and all that is suppost to be magical and happy, let me introduce myself. I go by the name BK, and no it does not stand for Burger King, Big Kahuna, or any other form of clever acronym that you can think of. I'm currently a college student, as to which college is not important; let's just say I'm a student of the school of life. Also, don't take what I say word for word, or assume that I believe I am some sort of all knowing person, but instead know that I am a hopeless romantic and a cynical person that has a tendency to judge things at face value, and at times can be quite the hypocrite. Alas, It is ultimately your choice as to whether or not you want to read what I write and believe what I say, so if you've come here to bash whatever I put on these pages I'll just smile, show you the door, and return your gratitude with a big FUCK YOU. Other than that, you are more than welcome to make yourself at home and hopefully enjoy whatever crap I can manage to post on this page. at 12:52 AM
About me
I am currently a graduate student studying education and will update my thoughts and experiences here periodically. Though the content of my blog may not always be the most intellectually stimulating, I believe that there is always a lesson to be learned from my posts, even if it's just a nonsensical story. I find poetry in ordinary life experiences and capture what memories I can through my camera's lens. At the end of the day I'm just another regular guy who needs to write his thoughts somewhere, and I hope you get some enjoyment out of my musings.
All of the best,
BK
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